Set Intentions, Not Resolutions

| if new year's resolutions haven't worked out for you in the past, maybe it's time to try something new... |

the start of a new year sparks resolutions for just about everyone. whether if it's setting goals to diet better, lose weight, or to get your finances in order, majority of us are looking to better ourselves in one way or another. while i think its pretty cool that the new year inspires everyone in such a way, it's really important to be mindful on how we go about accomplishing our goals.
in previous years, i'd always set some type of resolution- and for the most part, I'd unfortunately ended up disappointed with myself. I'd get so inspired to change myself that I developed that whole "go hard or go home" mentality and would set goals that my have been realistic but not in the time frame i'd set for them.
I remember one year I wanted to start meditating so I made a new year's resolution to meditate every single day for at least 10 minutes. now, while this may seem easy to some people, this wasn't the case for someone like me who never really meditated before; I meditated maybe a few days out of the first week before it dwindled down from there. after missing the first couple of days, I spent a few weeks trying to keep up with my resolution but, continued missing days or not meditating for the full 20 minutes and unfortunately, I didn't see that resolution through to the end.

resolutions vs intentions
the thing with resolutions is that when we set them, they're usually developed with an "all or nothing" mentality. and while that's not necessarily a bad thing, it's not the best practice simply because if we happen to get slightly off track, there's a sense that we failed and sometimes that's enough to want to give up on our resolution altogether. and if that's not enough, resolutions tend mohave a focus on "fixing" flaws and can be a constant reminder of something you're currently unhappy about. don't get me wrong, resolutions are good for short term goals, such as not eating junk food today, but it may be more difficult to stay focused for goals that are long-term.
with intentions, they're less specific than resolutions, they bring more mindfulness to our actions, and remind us to make an effort to do our best. intentions have a more compassionate energy that doesn't tie us to an outcome and if we happen to slip up, we view the action with less guilt than we would with resolutions because with intentions, the focus isn't on "fixing" flaws, it's on getting to the core of what you want and being open to the possibilities that can happen with setting intentions.

examples of resolutions:

  • meditate every day for 20 minutes
  • write more
  • lose weight
  • save money

examples of intentions:

  • develop a calm mind
  • make time to be more creative 
  • live a healthier lifestyle
  • become more mindful with spending money 

let's take a look at the first example. while you can develop a calm mind by meditating every day for 20 minutes, you can also do the same by reading a book or trying a new recipe. setting the intention to develop a calm mind allows you to explore different options while creating the same effect, which keeps things interesting and as a result, you're more likely to stick with your goal. the point is to not limit yourself to one method, instead, open yourself to new possibilities and develop more ways to increase the chances of you reaching your deeper goal.

have you tried setting intentions before? what are your intentions for the new year? let me know in the comments below!

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